Security Unlimited?

September 28, 2006 at 11:15 p09 (Married Life, Travel)

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When you walk down the aisle, you are no more an island. Your life is forever interlinked with that lady in white. You share her value although you dont necessary take ownership of it.

One of the things that i dont agree 100% with my Yang Berhormat on is the issue of security. She has a very heightened sense of seige mentality and security is paramount in a lot of her decision making and actions.

On the day of the blogger meet, i was supposed to drop her in OneUtama New Wing but she refused to get down at the side below the overhead bridge because she didnt feel safe. There was no characters of suspicious nature in the vicinity but who is going to argue with YB who is in a happy shopping mood/mode?

On our way back to the South, we had about RM60 in our smart tag and should be enough to reach home. But Yang Berhormat insisted that i “tambah nilai” (add value) at the Sg Besi toll, which had a v ery long queue and cars were cutting in from the right all the times. She was worried that the residual value might not be enough and we had to wind down our window later to pay in cash. She felt unsafe winding down our car window in the middle of the night. Well, queue lor, what to do?

Well on another separate incident involving crime and security, my friend from Kota Kemuning office was burgled the week i was there. Lucky his office content was insured and properly back-up. He will be in town today until the Saturday and i will be reciprocating his hospitality. So, my weekend starts early as i will be taking 2 half days off, both today & tomorrow to show him around.

Have a nice weekend and see you guys next week! Updating of KL trip will continue next week!



  1. may said,

    your YB must’ve read too many stories about crime in KL!! but better to be safe than to be sorry, of course. sometimes the incidents we hear about are just too out of the ordinary, never expected. we’re not safe anymore… *sigh*

    4f: maybe things cut too close for her own comfort. canny ong’s mother was her business friend and a recently retired couple in her hometown got burgled & murdered.

    you have a nice, safe weekend too!

    4f: tenkiu… and U 2! ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. wuching said,

    its called women’s intuitions! some may call it 6th sense or anything else but women r very strong in that so trust ur YB!

    4f: tenkiu bro for that advice!

  3. Simple American said,

    Women are funny critters. Dats why us men folk luvs em.

    4f: yup, difference attracts!

  4. me said,

    agree with may. she must have been reading too much about how unsafe kl is becoming. and i can’t blame her.

    4f: tenkiu for your understanding!

    when i went to spore recently and walked past some landed properties, i asked my friend about the security in the area. there seems to be no problem and there was no need for them to install alarms. my reaction was actually one of amazement. here? forget it, man. if it is not a guarded area & it’s landed property, chances are it’s an open invitation for burglars. better safe than sorry, friend.

    4f: hahaha… the strong arm of the law in this land. here it is really you can run but cannot hide!

  5. zara's mama said,

    I agree with Wuching, it’s women’s intuition.

    4f: intuition must come with wisdom and right way of communication, hor!

    And women normally plan ahead, they don’t do ‘want to shit, then only korek jamban’ one.. like men do… That’s to comment on her asking you to ‘tambah nilai’.

    4f: your observation so chun! dats why i like to travel with YB, all packing and planning is well taken care of… right down to the detail of titbits we eat along the journey! we had korean snack on the journey to bolehland.

  6. velverse said,

    hahaha… true true… never argue with a woman. ๐Ÿ™‚

    4f: who said so! why cannot argue? woman is always right issit?

    just joking! it is not nice to argue with women. better reason with them!

  7. LM said,

    haiyoh! here we have ME pouring out her paranoia on KL security!! ๐Ÿ™‚
    Hey, actually I’m abit scared too, after reading all the stories.

    4f: no need to be scare, just be careful will be good enough!

  8. ian said,

    More often than not, we men see things in a more general perspective and tend to overlook the smallest details. It is not unusual to find the apparently petty observations that women lay great significance on grinds us till no end. But somehow or rather, it is still better to be safe than sorry. And I’d also go with women’s instincts. I hate it but I have to admit, they hardly go too wrong… SIGH!

    4f: right on, your observation! sharp observation must be tinkered with wisdom and right way of communication. hope we species of the different gender will find our middle ground to work out this difference. Most often than not it is our miscommunication and lack of understanding that culminate in unpleasantaries.

  9. titoki said,

    Is Mrs Seefei pregnant? ;p

    4f: wahliao you 6th sense so geng hah?

  10. nyonyapenang said,

    can’t blame her really. all the macam-macam crimes that take place front, back and centre.

    4f: tenkiu for your understanding. how come you are not at the blogger meeting?

  11. angel said,

    errr… errr… i think i not woman enuff lah…
    *borrows titoki’s cellophane tape to keep own mouth shut*

    4f: titoki tapi is not the right treatment. self medication is dangerous. you should let dr cocka do a check on you LOL

  12. velverse said,

    no.. they are not always right. But well… it’s not a matter of nice or not… just haha… man and woman live in both worlds and even they both say they understand.. it might be the same understanding ๐Ÿ™‚

    4f: you are saying men are from Mars and women are from Venus, right? but somehow both ended up on a planet called earth!!

  13. Mick said,

    You sure do sound very submissive towards your other half ๐Ÿ™‚

    4f: hahaha… i call it maintain peace & harmony.

    i’m also very wary of driving up into Malaysia. But that’s because i’m not familiar with the roads more than anything else.

    4f: drive up more often and you will be an expert in no time! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Of course, Robin’s horror story of being chased after by a Proton Saga with a kid who lied to him about his car having a flat tyre and wanting him to pull over only served to increase this fear and sense of insecurity. Good thing he didn’t pull over. Good thing the mechanic of the workshop sold him an iron rod to defend himself. It’s always better to play safe than to be sorry ๐Ÿ™‚

    4f: lucky Robin! we have to do defensive driving in bolehland and most of all exercise patient at all time.

  14. happysurfer said,

    See fei, KL is not that scary lah. One just needs to be alert of one’s surroundings and take precautions so as not be a victim.

    4f: tenkiu for the advice!!

  15. Kenny Ng said,

    Maybe u all heard too much snatch theft stories happened in Malaysia. But it happens at most hidden and isolated places in shopping malls like car park. RM60 is more than enaugh for u to reach S’pore.

    4f: i have been a frequent traveller to Malaysia and touch wood so far so good. but we cant be too careful, right? Do you travel down to the south often?

  16. Winn said,

    it’s good to be alert and keep a lookout of the surroundings..
    i think ur YB is doing the right thing.
    she sounds like a very detailed person. good la

    4f: your instinct is correct. YB is meticulous and organised!

  17. Kenny Ng said,

    See Fei: I seldom travel down to south part, that only I went to UTM only went down there.

    4f: give a tinker when in vicinity! what business you have in UTM?

  18. Maverick SM said,

    When you walk down the aisle, you are no more an island, ya, you are in the deep blue sea – either you swim together back to shore, or, you swim alone.

    4f: yup, have more swimming partners if you can afford it ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Life is forever interlinked with that lady in white. The problem isn’t about sharing values, for many at times, differing values exist. It’s about accepting differing values and appreciating the weakness while remembering the strength. It’s about willingness to forgive and forget and a positive actions to strive to further develop shared values where two will become one.

    4f: well said but sometime when one side have more “power”, the playing become unlevel and hence it is difficult to accept other weakness and admits one’s own. we have a life time to work things out and maybe this continuous “tussle” that keep the marriage from going stale.

  19. zeroimpact said,

    Security is indeed difficult to battle
    What do I know…
    I’ve been bombarded with questions of security, but I really can’t answer them
    Not even one

    4f: welcome to the club!

  20. Leonard said,

    that why i haben walk down the aisle yet, haven walk already kena many things that you can’t agreed on and have to do it.
    furthermore, all wrong can be said to be correct and i’m correct can be changed to you’re in the wrong…..
    it’s like that lar!!! Sigh!

    4f: marriage… got to work at it. no easy way out but take it from me, it is more enjoyable than living “alone”.

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