Talking back to your wife is not a bad thing

January 31, 2008 at 11:15 p01 (Married Life, News & Comments)


NOT that I agree with the title of this post. Fighting with the wife? You must be crazy! She is your other half, for goodness sake. Not in my lifetime, no matter what the health benefits. Anyway, why pick a fight that you cannot win?

I can think of others lesser characters that are more worthy of my unabashed 2 cents worth like those unreasonable clients, demanding boss(es), rude waiters, nosey relatives etc.

This survey is really sek-pau-mo-yeh-jo (eat full nothing to do) type. The findings are foregone conclusion and why pick of the other half who provide you with sex love and comfort?

 The full article from Reuter

NEW YORK (Reuters Life!) – Fighting with your spouse can actually be good for your health with people who bottle it all up found to die earlier, a new study shows. Researchers at the University of Michigan School of Public Health and its Psychology Department released preliminary findings after 17 years of following 192 couples. The couples fell into four categories: where both partners expressed anger when they felt unfairly attacked, where neither partner expressed their anger, and one category each for where the wife suppressed her feelings and where the husband did so. “I would say that if you don’t express your feelings to your partner and tell them what the problem is when you’re unfairly attacked, then you’re in trouble,” said Ernest Harburg, lead author of the study, in an interview. The study found that those who kept their anger in were twice as likely to die earlier than those who don’t.There were 13 deaths in the group of 26 pairs where both partners suppressed their emotions, as opposed to only 41 deaths in the remaining 166 pairs. “When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict,” Harburg said. “Usually nobody is trained to do this. If they have good parents, they can imitate, that’s fine, but usually the couple is ignorant about the process of resolving conflict.” Harburg said resentment was the real threat — and suppressing anger led to resentmentHe said it is the resentment that interacts with any medical vulnerabilities a person might have, increasing their chances of succumbing to that medical problem.“It’s healthy to recognize that you’re being attacked unfairly and it’s even more healthy to speak up and to talk about it and try to resolve the problem if you want to live longer,” said Harburg.(Reporting by Stefanie Kranjec; Editing by Belinda Goldsmith)



  1. Maverick SM said,

    I can never agree with that article.

    I don’t need that health from such activities.

    There are better ways to make us healthy.

    4f: sometime i wonder why good money goes into such research? there is no real benefit from the findings.

  2. Leonard said,

    Be a good hubby! henpeck and enjoy all the benefits!

    4f: your words are wiser beyond your age.

  3. hiaoauntie said,

    i like your understatements (cancelled out phrases)… it’s stupid to fight with one’s spouse! peace at home is so important for stability and security.

    4f: peace at anyway is good, right?

  4. wuching said,

    even if you win you also lose

    4f: speaking from experience? hahaha…

  5. The Horny Bitch said,

    Good excuse to pick up a fight lor…

    4f: me no fighter especially with the other half.

  6. may said,

    a rather odd way to live longer lerrrr… I’m sure there are other ways to prolong life, like not pick a fight and live stress free instead!

    4f: stress free life is difficult but it will be bearable to have someone to share it with…

  7. The Horny Bitch said,


    4f: same to you. hope the year of the Golden Rat will be a good one for you too!!

  8. mistipurple said,

    Happy New Year Seefei! Wish you and your wife a prosperous and healthy new year of the Rat!
    Ya, no need research to confirm those findings lah. So waste of resources.

    4f: misti kong hee fatt choy!!

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